Shannon Stacey

Is it in yet?

Topics have a way of cycling through the romance community, coming and going and coming around again. A common one is reality in romance, which will often spawn a sub-conversation about virgin heroines and their first time around the block, so to speak.

Common complaints include the heroine not feeling enough pain or not being sore after or having fabulously awesome multiple orgasms right out of the starting gate. Okay, fine. A woman’s first time having sex doesn’t usually end with her being swept away on cresting waves of passion.

Let’s imagine, for a moment, a fun and wonderful romance novel in which our virgin heroine has finally found her true love—a strapping, handsome man who makes us swoon as he sweeps her off her feet and carries her up the stairs to lay her gently on the bed.

We now join the heroine’s thoughts already in progress…

Is he doing this right?

Oh, hell no.


Ow ow ow ow ow.


Is that it?

Get off me.



Oh yeah, that’s all kinds of sexy. You can keep your reality. I want the fairy tale.

5 comments to “Is it in yet?”

  1. Maisey
      · February 18th, 2010 at 3:13 pm · Link

    *slow clap…increasing in tempo….increasing…the stadium joins me…full blown applause* (and cresting waves!!)

    I’ve often argued that point. Seriously, if you’ve been devirginized, you’ve had that reality, we don’t need to be told about it again. And hey, I choose to believe that my passionate, Latin type heroes just know what they’re doing. :twisted:

    But if people want to rage a debate on sex in romance novels, they will. It hurts the heroine too much, it doesn’t hurt her enough…Multiple?? Really?? That’s not even possible…

    It goes on.

    In the end, I’m with you, give me something I want to read, and write!

  2. Heather Rae Scott
      · February 18th, 2010 at 4:01 pm · Link

    This shoulda came with a spew alert, because I almost ruined my new laptop. I’m with Maisey with my loud clapping. I *felt* the reality. I only wish my first time was as caring as some of the ones written by romance authors, hell an orgasm in there would be a plus…so yeah, give me the fantasy. Who doesn’t want the fantasy?

  3. Emma Wayne Porter
      · February 18th, 2010 at 9:17 pm · Link


    I love you

  4. azteclady
      · February 18th, 2010 at 11:50 pm · Link

    I. can’t. stop. laughing.

  5. Annmarie
      · February 19th, 2010 at 3:21 am · Link

    Lord Have Mercy.


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