Shannon Stacey

Where I've been

Okay, so I thought I’d be able to keep up appearances here at Casa Shan, but I’ve got nothing, so here goes…

Last weekend, shortly after the pictures I posted were taken, my husband suffered a TIA (mini-stroke). We’ve spent the last week in a more or less paralyzing state of terror. Today his diagnostic testing included a carotid ultrasound. He didn’t even get to come home. His left carotid artery has an over 80% blockage. They’re keeping him for the weekend and the surgery is scheduled for Monday morning. It’s terrifying and traumatizing and the short kid especially is in very rough shape. As a matter of fact, he’s curled up here on the couch next to me even though it’s almost ten.

So that’s the rock I’ve been living under.

On a lighter note, I came across this sentence in Becoming Miss Becky:

“True.” Will accepted a glass of waste from the barkeep with a grateful smile. “But she’s not hunting me, so to speak. I’m just trying to stay out of her path. And Lucy’s. And Fiona’s. And, hell, the path of every woman in Gardiner with an opinion on Becky.”

A glass of WHAT? It makes me wonder what the hell I was watching and/or listening to when I wrote that.

23 comments to “Where I've been”

  1. Karen Templeton
      · September 5th, 2008 at 10:46 pm · Link

    Oh, Shan…many, many hugs and prayers coming your way. And an extra hug for the short kid from Auntie Karen.

  2. Jean
      · September 5th, 2008 at 10:59 pm · Link

    Hugs to you and the kids. Your family will be in my thoughts and prayers for a solid, speedy recovery.

  3. Charlene
      · September 5th, 2008 at 11:23 pm · Link

    Shan, how awful. I’m so sorry. Will be think of you and your family.

  4. Sybil
      · September 6th, 2008 at 2:34 am · Link

    I am so sorry, hon, sounds like a hell of a week. I hope it helps to know what caused it and have a place to start to fix it. Many hugs to you and yours.

  5. Michelle (MG)
      · September 6th, 2008 at 3:29 am · Link

    :hug: I’m so sorry. Your dh, you and your whole family are in my thoughts and prayers.

  6. kate r
      · September 6th, 2008 at 8:10 am · Link

    Hugs to you and your family, Shannon. It’s just scary.

  7. Lynn
      · September 6th, 2008 at 8:37 am · Link

    I’m so sorry. I’ll be keeping you all on the prayer chain until your guy is through this. Take care of yourself, Shannon.

  8. vanessa jaye
      · September 6th, 2008 at 8:45 am · Link

    Hey, Shan my prayers are with you, hubby and family. ((hugs))

  9. Angela James
      · September 6th, 2008 at 9:04 am · Link

    Wow. What WAS your editor smoking?

    And *sigh* happy birthday. At least get some cake, k?

  10. Jaci Burton
      · September 6th, 2008 at 9:05 am · Link

    (((( Shan ))))) You know where your friends are if you need us.

  11. Jorrie Spencer
      · September 6th, 2008 at 9:51 am · Link

    I’m so sorry. I’ll be thinking of you and yours, and wishing for the best possible outcome.

  12. Emma Wayne Porter
      · September 6th, 2008 at 12:45 pm · Link

    Ah hon, I’m so sorry.

    Hug all the boys for me, and you take care of yourself. :hug:

    We’ll be thinking about you.

  13. kate r
      · September 6th, 2008 at 1:32 pm · Link

    Don’t forget to let us know how you guys are doing.

  14. Bev Stephans
      · September 6th, 2008 at 1:57 pm · Link

    My sincere wishes for your husband, you and your family. Hang in there!

  15. Natalie J. Damschroder
      · September 6th, 2008 at 7:06 pm · Link

    How scary, Shan! But listen–I managed a lot of these cases for short-term disability, and they usually go really well with quick recovery. I’ll pray for the same for your husband.

  16. Shannon
      · September 6th, 2008 at 10:01 pm · Link

    Thank you all so much for the good thoughts and prayers. We’ll take all we can get.

    The hardest part is the leaving. It’s heartbreaking taking my children away from their daddy. For everybody. And trying not to cry while my the short kid sobbed in the backseat and driving in the outer bands of Hannah made for an exhausting late return tonight.

    The second hardest part is the mother vs. wife thing. I know I need to keep the world on as even a keel as possible for my children, but part of me wants to pack them up, ship them to my sister and then go curl up in the bedside chair and hold my husband’s hand until this is over.

    I don’t know what’s happening Monday yet. No time frame. I’ve heard the doctor likes to operate at the butt-crack of dawn. The tall kid will want to go to school. The short kid is already refusing, but I don’t want him sitting in the waiting room, and I don’t want him to see his daddy until the drain’s removed. But he has a substitute, not a teacher who knows him and who I can explain the situation to, so I’m not sure he can handle a school day. I don’t know.

    I don’t have anybody who can stay with him here but I need to be there.

    I don’t know what to do.

    Sorry. God willing silly, inane Shan will be back on Tuesday.

  17. Shannon
      · September 6th, 2008 at 11:53 pm · Link

    My mom is coming.

  18. Karen Templeton
      · September 7th, 2008 at 12:41 am · Link

    Oh, thank goodness — because I was ready to come to NH myself.

    Yeah, a total stranger staying with the short kid. Just what he needs.

    Feel the love, honey. That is all. :hug:

  19. Bev Stephans
      · September 7th, 2008 at 12:59 am · Link

    Thank God for mothers! They can walk into the biggest mess and turn it around in a matter of minutes. Been there, seen that. With your mom there, you can give your attention where it’s needed most. Once again, hang in there!

  20. Rhonda
      · September 7th, 2008 at 8:54 am · Link

    Hugs Shannon! :hug:
    Will be thinking of all of you, glad your mom can come.

  21. Melani Blazer
      · September 7th, 2008 at 11:34 am · Link

    hugs and prayers for ALL of you. My thoughts are with you. I’m confident everything will be fine. Hugs the two kids and squeeze the hubby’s hand for me, k?

  22. Natalie J. Damschroder
      · September 7th, 2008 at 11:49 am · Link

    I’m glad your mom is coming to help out, that will be a big relief for you. Take it one moment at a time, and try to focus on the positive–but if you DO need that corner-curl-up-sobbing-your-heart-out time, don’t hesitate to take it. It will make you stronger.

    And we’re all here praying for you. Silent support. *hugs*

  23. Anna Louise Lucia
      · September 8th, 2008 at 6:02 pm · Link

    Oh, babe. I am so sorry – this is horrible for you. Sending huge hugs and good wishes and strong, strong, strong prayers.

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